I grew up without my parents beside me. My mom passed away when I was 3 years old and my dad was always busy out of town doing his job. I have a very low self esteem and I never thought I can survive life’s trials and adversities. Most of the time, I was left deciding for myself and do what for me is the right thing to do. In the process, I started to build confidence and trust in myself especially in decision making.
My independent attitude triggers me to mature early in life. Since I have no parents to guide me, I have to do things on my own weighing all possible results on all the things I need to do. I realize that no matter what I decide or do, I am still the only one who will suffer the consequences. And my mindset towards this attitude makes me what I am today. I believe in myself, and I stand on everything I decide and do. In times that I am wrong, I am open to criticism and correction. For me, trusting myself is the best thing to do in every situation. We are gifted with our own instincts and we should learn to develop and trust it in those critical situations.
Psychological factors hinder us from doing this thing. We grew up in a different environment and expected to have different results and mindset also when it comes to this attitude. But it doesn’t matter that when you are young, you will have the same mindset and mentality, as you grow old. We people are capable of changing, especially on how the way we think about ourselves. There are various programs to uplift our self esteem or improve our way of socializing with other people.
It is of great importance that we must believe in our self in order to succeed. We are the key person in our own success, and setting our mind that we are successful and we can be successful is the very first step towards it.
If you still haven’t developed this attitude, start with changing your mindset. Read books tackling topics about personality development. There’s always a time for you, but you need to start now.
